Life (& A No B.S. Goddess?)
I met someone on the beach a few weeks back who, after just a short (but kind of intense) conversation, looked at me with head tilted to the side and said:
"You know, you’re a very compelling blend of masculine and feminine energy - like a no-bullshit goddess."
Favourite. Compliment. Ever.
Not only because who doesn’t want to be called a goddess (I am big enough to admit it!). But because I felt, well, seen.
I like being a little bit of everything. And doesn't it feel like that's exactly what we're not supposed to be?
For years, I struggled to balance these two sides of myself. The part of me that is bold, direct, and action-oriented. And the part of me that is soft, intuitive, and deeply attuned to my own rhythms.
I used to think I had to pick one lane.
Be constantly hustling, pushing for more, getting shit done (and a little in-your-face if I'm being honest) or be the deeply present, ease-filled woman who trusts everything will work out (and spends a lot of time barefoot and vibing).
But life - at least a life in full bloom - doesn’t work that way.
(That's a subtle-not-so-subtle nod to my coaching program’s rename, just by-the-by 😉)
And when I let go of the need to hang out in solely my masculine energy OR my feminine energy and let myself embrace my natural balance, that's truly when I became this version of me - the one who can ride the ups and downs of life and still feel deeply joyful in her soul.
And I want you to feel the same. Because that feeling? To ride the waves without succumbing to the pressure to shift? That, my friend, is freedom.
Holding Both
You've likely felt the pressure to choose. Are you someone who “makes shit happen” or are you “soft and joyful”?
But it’s a false dichotomy, First name / friend. And it’s reiterated over and over in subtle - and not so subtle - ways.
🌿 Be independent and strong, or be nurturing and receptive.
🌿 Be logical and strategic, or be creative and intuitive.
🌿 Be ambitious and goal-oriented, or be in flow and at peace
So what if we wanna be BOTH…AND…?
And what if your power - your magic - comes from embracing all of it? There’s nothing wrong with you if you don’t want to live in extremes.
In fact, I'd argue that for most of us, the most aligned, fulfilling life doesn’t come from leaning too hard in one direction.
It comes from weaving it all together in a way that’s uniquely your own.
What It Looks Like in Action
That’s a lot of pretty words, right? But what does it all meaaannn?
Here’s what it means:
💡 Making bold, strategic moves - but only the ones that truly align with your soul (you can feel it, because you can feel the resistance when it’s not it).
💡 Holding high standards for yourself - but giving yourself grace when things don’t go to plan. Make a plan, move towards it, but keep space for the world to surprise you. Don’t throw on blinders and close yourself to the magic of possibility.
💡 Going after your biggest, most ambitious goals - without letting them define your worth. Not all battles are won on the first go, but that doesn’t mean you hand in your bow and arrow. You feel me?
And if that balance feels tricky to hold? You’re not alone.
This is exactly what we do in Life in Bloom (previously Odyssey) - my 1:1 coaching experience designed to help you build a life that feels deeply aligned, where ambition and ease, strategy and intuition, finally work together.
Because it should never be about choosing one way of being. It should always be about learning how to trust yourself fully so you can move through life with clarity, confidence, and joy.
2 Things to Try
1️⃣ Where are you over-relying on one energy? Take a moment to reflect: Do you feel stuck in overdrive, always doing? Or do you find yourself hesitating to take action, waiting for things to come to you? Where could you bring in the other energy to create more balance?
2️⃣ Practice blending both energies in a small way today. If you tend to be hyper-independent, try asking for support. If you tend to stay in your vibey comfort zone, take one bold, decisive action today - without overthinking it.
You don't need some guy on the beach (or me) to remind you that you’re already the perfect blend of exactly the energies that are going to carry you to all your dreams 🥹
(But I'm gonna remind you, anyways).
And you don’t have to choose between power and presence or creativity and ease. You don’t have to fit into one mold. You get to be the full, multifaceted human that you are - a no-bullshit goddess (or god, to the men here! because it's still true!), through and through.
It’s time to step in to the messy, beautiful middle. I’ll meet you there :)