You cannot “should” yourself into a great life
Let me tell you about a girl named Cynthia...😬
This is me, about 3 years ago, in the office where I worked.
I really liked a lot about my job and to this day feel grateful for the opportunities that job STILL provides me! As far as office jobs go, it was honestly the best.
Which is probably why I spent a lot of time thinking about how I SHOULD feel.
"I am so lucky! I have a great job, a great apartment, stability, and all the wine I want. I SHOULD be grateful. I should be happy. This SHOULD be enough."
I was clearly "living well" but I was also deeply disconnected with myself and my hopes and dreams.
The biggest signs were at the time, just "normal" single girl stuff (feeling deeply lonely, for starters and chasing all the wrong people).
But really, I was doing anything I could think of to escape what I knew "SHOULD" be an amazing life.
When did I realize it?
ONCE I STARTED ACCIDENTALLY LIVING MY ACTUAL, TRUE-TO-ME DREAM LIFE.
Ya, I kinda went about it a little backwards (I went to Mexico with a suitcase and my pug and then just kinda...stayed 😆).
But once I was stepping into my dream life by ACCIDENT, I was able to realize it was the right path for me - because I had already identified what would make me happiest on a deep level.
I just hadn't figured out yet how to have it.
SO WHAT CHANGED?
I stopped SHOULDING myself to death and let my dreams be real.
I allowed them myself to start making decisions in service to my dreams, instead of my ears. And I started leaning in to what was right in front of me, lighting me up and calling me in.
I faced my fears (I still do, all the time!) and I let my joy lead me.
It's been an imperfect journey (um, cuz perfection doesn't exist!) but I know in my soul that it's right. And if it stops feeling that way? I trust myself and my path to know I'll just take another leap.
If you're done with should, let's explore what COULD BE. Book a free coffee chart to discuss what this ‘life’ thing could all start to look and feel like for YOU <3